So before I get started I will say I feel worn out today, so they may be a rambled jumbled mess but here I go!
Well
I can say I have struggled with my roles as a woman and wife and I
enjoyed being reminded that God made me a woman and how very special I
am as a Woman!
Before marriage I can say that I think I did a good
job of letting Brian be the leader.....he asked me out....he kissed me
first....he held my hand first...he asked me to marry him...he made sure
he had a home for me to live in...I did not force him into anything or
demand that he do any of those things! Yes I am proud to say that my
husband is more that just a male he is a Man! : )
And with that being said I do need to let him be the man.....all of the time!
So,
after we got married, I think I felt entitled to start bossing him
around, and expected him to change some of his bachelor-like habits (I
wanted him to be a perfect housekeeper)....and I wanted him to change as
soon as I said so......Fast forward four years now and I will say I
still have not "fixed" him or made him change....ha! Yes, I will say I
have tried to wear the pants but it doesn't work out so well when I do
that!
I have better realized my roles over the years and I
have been getting better at truly playing my part.....not overtaking
his part and have worked on not being his "mom" as he has put it before.
I think my main issues when it comes to roles have
to do with household duties.....I realize I as a woman am just more
inclined to do housework and and know what needs to be done to keep the
household going, and that Brian is pretty much blind to it all...not
because he wants to be......he just is. Also, with both of us working
full time we both agree that I should not be solely in charge of all
household duties. However, he is not of the nature to notice things and
do them without me saying something....resulting in me expecting him to
read my mind......I become frustrated....then I end up doing
everything.....and at that point I am doing things out of anger and
resentment.....not good and how selfish of me...and this happens when
Ann is being self centered and pushes God and hubby aside!
For the last year I have been blessed with a regular
schedule.....Praise God! I have worked on embracing my womanly
roles....I now enjoy cooking and knowing that I am better at
cleaning.....being happy that I can provide my husband a homey
home....Brian has become the dish-doer....instead of demanding that he
read my mind or demanding that things get done.....then getting angry, I
have worked on lovingly asking for help, then, when Brian gets behind
or forgets to do something and I end up doing something like helping him
catch up on dishes ( I cannot believe how many dishes 2 people can
dirty in a day) I do it for him out of love, knowing that Brian has
other roles of his own that he is responsible for.
There were many sections of the chapter that stuck out to me:
I do not want to be a woman who "won't take no for an answer"
I
do think our roles matter and when I let Brian be the man and I am the
woman and let God in to do His thing, life is naturally better! I like
being protected, and cared for by my husband, Mary states that women are
"the constant beneficiary of protection from the authorities God has
put in her life".....hmm....we have it pretty good ladies!
I liked how Mary pointed out that "Genesis reveals that men and
women are more like God than anything else in the universe, and they
share this status equally."
Man and woman are "complementary", they need each other
Woman is "helper....helper alongside"
Lord help us to clearly see and appreciate the roles
you have blessed us with, help us as wives to let our husbands lead us
and our families, but most of all help us to conform our lives to you,
our Loving Father, so that we may see and hear clearly how you are
leading us daily!
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