to Ann, me
WHOA...what a chapter.. I really liked this chapter- I found it to be so relevant. Even today, I had a conversation at our office about women who don't respect themselves enough to keep their "goods" covered :) (Some of the guys in the shop have posters of skantily clothed women in back shop- and I was embarrassed to walk a client back in our shop today because of it..) Anyway, focusing on the ME aspect.. I DO try to get attention from guys- even still, though I am married. After the chapter last week on appearance- John and I had a convo- and I told him that I know how to dress and what to do to get attention if I want it. John constantly challenges me to be content with myself and the way that I am - and that no man or no one is going to give me complete satisfaction- at least not by giving me compliments or saying the right things- it made me realize that I really need to find my worth and value in the Lord. He needs to be the one I turn to, in addition to John, to find myself attractive. "Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." Proverbs 31:30- I want to fear the Lord- I want my beauty to come from the inside out and I WANT TO BELIEVE that in my heart- I want to believe that in God's eyes I am SO beautiful- I want to learn to be satisfied in that relationship- John isn't a word person- so though I am, and he does try to make an effort to verbally compliment- he often times doesn't - and it isn't because he doesn't find me attractive or beautiful- but he just doesn't express his feelings through word- well, I find myself often times seeking verbally compliments from other men, if I feel I am lacking from John- TOTALLY WRONG- oh how I know this-- and it isnt as though I am seeking ANYTHING else from other guys- but every girl likes to be noticed..we all liked to be complimented..but if we seek that in a provocative way- or in way that causes other men to think impure thoughts- then it is wrong. In a convo between John and I- he was saying that if a guy chooses to look - that is his own fault- and though, yes, I agree- we are not making them look at us - however, dressing in a less than respectful way, and by just putting it out there- only asks and begs for them to look. Though, I wouldn't say that I do that- I do know how to manipulate to get what I want..
I loved that Mary's son said, "Well... I would have to say that it excites the male in me, but it doesn't attract the man in me." WOW. I really liked that..and thought to myself- based on conversations John and I have had in the past- I can thankfully say that I believe John's response would be the same- it isn't as though you can completely ignore all of the "JUNK" out there- it is everywhere- billboards, tv, commercials, grocery store, next door, etc- but we can choose to ignore it and turn our heads and find contentment and true beauty that hopefully is flowing out from within :)
With a bit of emphasis on the appearance chapter- honestly, I really didn't like the chapter too much- I didn't feel that the appearance aspect was too applicable to me- though like I said before, I do know that I can dress to impress- and hopefully I am only seeking to do that in a way that honors God and makes me more attractive to my husband. I did like that Mary said, "To begin, the Lord wants His girls to be stunningly beautiful. But He repeatedly stresses that a woman's beauty- and her beautification- is something that primarily happens on the inside."
Oh how I love that I can be called one of the Lord's girls : ) and this statement was a great reminder that we should want to be beautiful- we should strive to beautiful- BUT we should recognize- that it ALL starts from within...
Anyway, hope you both have a SUPER great week : ) Love you both..love sharing this book with you both. Until next week.. SORRY I was late on my appearance chapter- I had actually read it last Tuesday- but just never got around to writing my summary- in fact, right now- John went to bed an hr ago- and Bailey wasn't ready to sleep- so she is playing in the laundry basket next to me..and I just read this week's chapter...anyway, off to bed with us hopefully soon : )
Definitely praying, that I'll be able to teach Bailey by my actions how to dress and how to grow herself into a girl after God's heart : )
Love you both.
Hannah
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